Instead of seeing the hard parts of life as a set of challenges and disappointments, what if we looked at things as a chance to listen and find alignment. Eckhart Tolle says "change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” Often I find people are complaining about or accepting things in their life they could be changing. By tuning in we are able to discern what we should be changing, leaving, and accepting.